All learning, even of limits and structure, begins with nurturing care from which children learn trust, warmth, intimacy, empathy, and attachment to those around them, Limits and structure begin with nurturance and caring because 90 percent of teaching children to internalize limits is based on children’s desire to please those around them. Children want to please for different reasons: because they love their caregivers and want their approval and respect, or because they are afraid of being punished for misbehaving. Generally, they are motivated by a combination of the two.
Why Children Need Limits
- September 3, 2016